Uh oh! “You’ve been paired!” The email that sends chills down Iggles spines, whether they’re new to the IGGPPC or veteran members. It can be terrifying to try to make that first connection. What should you say? How long should you wait for a response? What if your pen pal seems like a real jerk? Here are some tips for making sure you’re doing your part to keep your relationship at its best!
When you send off your first email to your pal, send a lengthy introduction about yourself with proper grammar and capitalization. Make sure to ask questions about your pal as well.
Imagine this: You get paired with a stranger from across the globe, and the first thing they write to you is, “wuts ur addy” – Um, what? I need to know you first! Make sure you write them at least 5 sentences talking about yourself first so they know exactly who they have been paired with. You can use this formula:
- Hi, my name is _______ and I am so glad we have been paired!
- I listed these things as my top 5 geek loves! How about you?
- I live in this country! How about you?
- Write back and then we can swap addresses!
- Love, your Pen Pal
Be respectful of your pen pals time.
Sometimes our lives can get hectic, so make sure to give your pal at least 2 weeks to write back. There’s no need to pepper their inbox with emails daily, so that when they finally get around to checking them they have 10 new messages from a total stranger. If they don’t write back within 2 weeks, you can attempt to contact us to either be re-paired with a new pen pal, or ask us to try to contact your pal. Sometimes emails get caught up in pesky spam folders, so your pen pal just might have missed your email.
Determine how committed of a pen pal you want to be, and be up front about it.
If you’re a student or you work long hours, you might not want to send a letter every week – perhaps only once a month, or perhaps only one time. Make sure you’re honest and up front about the level of commitment you want to put into the relationship, and don’t take it personally if your pen pal doesn’t want a very committed relationship of letter writing – perhaps they just wanted some cool candy or coins from another country! If you were really hot and heavy for a very committed pen pal, you can always write to this person once, and then sign up again on the 15th of the next month for a new pal. You might have better luck!
Don’t be afraid to be honest with your pen pal if they hurt your feelings.
If your pen pal has been ignoring you, sending you short quick responses that don’t make sense, or just plain said something rude, speak up! Your pen pal is not a mind reader, and open and honest communication is vital to a good relationship. So speak up because your pen pal ain’t gonna call Miss Cleo!
Connect with your pen pal online as well as offline.
Sending mail around the globe can take weeks and sometimes even months to arrive at it’s destination, so try to reach out to your pal in other ways. Email, Twitter, Facebook, and Tumblr are all good examples of how you can make the connection online. You can also chat up other Iggles by using #IGGPPC to see who else is out there chatting in our community. Maybe you and your new pen pal can get to chatting in our forums! Or perhaps you can send them a friendly poke on Facebook! The possibilities are limitless.
Do you want to sign up for a pen pal! Head over here!